WHAT ARE THE IMPORTANT EVENTS IN MY FAMILY?
this work, we examine the tragic events
affecting us and our children. Looking back three
generations, we ask: Who died early? Who left? Who was abandoned,
isolated or excluded from the family? Who was adopted or who gave
a child up for adoption? Who died in childbirth? Who had a stillborn birth
or an abortion? Who was murdered or murdered someone? Who committed suicide?
Who suffered in war? Who died in or participated
in the holocaust? Who profited from another's loss? Who was
wrongly accused? Who was jailed or institutionalized? Who
had a physical, emotional or mental disability? Who had a significant relationship prior to getting married, and what happened? Who experienced an early separation from a mother? And so on. Most importantly, we see how tragic events have deeply impacted our families. We see how our parents and grandparents struggled.
We ask: Are we struggling similarly? The imprint of these events can become the blueprint for future generations.
WHAT HAPPENS IN A FAMILY CONSTELLATION?
In short, constellations allow us to break destructive family patterns. They give us a deeper understanding as to why we feel the way we feel. First, we gain a felt sense of how we are still affected by the tragic events that remain unresolved in our families. Secondly, we literally step into a new image of feeling whole. After a constellation, we stand in a stronger and clearer place.
What's unresolved with our parents does not automatically disappear. It serves as a template that forges our later relationships.
When someone has been excluded from the family
HOW MIGHT YOU TREAT A BOY WITH
AN ANXIETY DISORDER?
That depends on many variables. Is he close with his mother? Were there any attachment issues or early traumas that affected their bond? Is he close with his father? Is he closer with his mother than his father? Is his father in the picture? Is his mother anxious? Is his father anxious? Was there a tragedy in the family that couldn't be grieved?
Let's say a father loses his father when he is twelve in a tragic accident. Years later, when his own son reaches twelve or thereabouts, this father begins to distance himself from his family. Perhaps he has an affair or separates from his wife. Whatever the case, he repeats the absence of his father.
In an attempt to soothe the sad feelings of his mother, his son begins to carry his mother’s anger toward the father. This creates a conflict in the boy, as both parents are needed for the boy to feel whole and develop in his masculinity. This boy now begins to feel anxious. Perhaps he develops panic attacks, or he becomes defiant or oppositional, or he begins failing at school.
IS THIS A SHORT-TERM THERAPY?
A Family Constellation can be a one-time, therapeutic intervention that does not necessarily require ongoing therapy.
DO YOU OFFER INDIVIDUAL SESSIONS?
Yes, we offer phone sessions, individual sessions and brief therapies designed to get to the heart of the issue. Many times, a single session is enough to generate a major breakthrough. You can contact us at: (403) 244-0455 or email.
Anyone who struggles with illness, depression, anxiety, panic disorders, obsessive
thoughts, fears, phobias, guilt, bi-polar disorder, persistent anger, lingering grief, meaninglessness, psychosomatic
diseases, asthma, colitis, chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, IBS, reproductive health issues, failed relationships, financial difficulties, family violence, addictions, OCD, ADHD, ADD, PTSD, etc. could benefit from receiving a family constellation.
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