"A person's greatness is that which makes him/her equal to others"
Widely regarded as one of the most influential and effective family
therapists in the world today, Hellinger acknowledges several important
influences on his life and work: his parents, whose faith immunized
him against accepting Hitler's National Socialism; his 20 years spent
as a priest and missionary with the South African Zulus; and his participation
in interracial, ecumenical training in group dynamics led by Anglican
clergy. After leaving the priesthood, he immersed himself in the study
of the major forms of psychotherapy, including Psychoanalysis, Gestalt
Therapy, Primal Therapy, Transactional Analysis and Family Systems Therapy,
out of which, Family Constellation Work evolved. To learn more about
Bert Hellinger, please visit his
"ORDER AND LOVE WORK TOGETHER"
Identifying what he terms, "the Orders of Love," Hellinger observed
that certain governing principles must be respected for the love in
the family to flow in a healthy way. And that when these orders are
disturbed, for example, when a child tries to take on the fate of a
parent, suffering and unhappiness ensue.
Hellinger found that each member in our family holds a special place and has an equal right to belong to the family system. This applies equally to stillborn and aborted babies, as well as to the failures and perpetrators in our family who may have been rejected for reasons of immorality, criminal misconduct or abuse. If any member of the family is disrespected, forgotten, excluded, or disregarded in some way, someone in a later generation may repeat his or her fate by sharing a similar misfortune. Only when we acknowledge and honor the difficult fates of those who've preceded us, can the "Orders of Love" be reestablished and the chain of tragic destinies be broken.